How to Deal With Impostor Syndrome: 3 Quick Fixes
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Realize that nobody knows what they are doing.
The first step to How to Deal With Impostor Syndrome changed my life. It was such a huge mind-shift, but it makes so much sense if you think about it. We are all human, and we are all learning. Everyone is making mistakes ON A DAILY BASIS.
The only difference between the successful entrepreneur and the dreamer who never gets started is that the former doesn’t wait. They don’t ask themselves “will I ever be good enough?” They just start. The only way to learn how to do something is to just do it. As a result, many entrepreneurs are just winging it. Eventually, they become an expert at something, but by then they are already winging something else.
In fact, I know that gaining as much experience in something you want to learn is the fastest way to go from zero to hero. If you sit around reading books, just focusing on the theory, then the truth is you will probably psych yourself out.
Nobody is cut from a different cloth. The biggest expert in any field started out as a novice at some point. When I got my first real estate coaching clients, I wasn’t “an expert”, but I didn’t need to be. The early validation gave me the motivation to keep going, as it told me I was on the right track.
PRO TIP: Research has shown that the best way to learn something quickly, is to teach it to someone. It sounds scary, but I am living proof that this works. The motivation to present your knowledge well will supercharge your progress. Don’t wait for the ‘perfect time’ (it doesn’t exist!) ‒ try it out ASAP!
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Realize that everyone faces the imposter complex.
Do you feel that the top people in the world always feel like they deserve to be there? Of course, they don’t. In fact, the more successful a person, the more pressure they have to justify their place. This can lead to massive imposter syndrome anxiety.
Tina Fey once confessed to feeling like a fraud sometimes.
Sheryl Sandberg, the COO of Facebook, has also experienced dips in confidence due to imposter syndrome. In fact, it is common for super successful people to suffer from imposter syndrome.
This alone should show you how irrational imposter syndrome anxiety really is.
But they didn’t let it rule their lives and nor should you.
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Remind yourself that you are worth it and deserve success.
Once you realize that nobody has a freaking clue what they are doing and that everybody suffers from imposter syndrome, you become unstoppable.
When I have self-doubt (and yes it still happens sometimes), like asking myself:
“Why should someone buy that house from me?”
“Why would women want my help to create their money story?”
I shifted my mindset from “it’s not going to happen”, to “why wouldn’t it happen?”
I am a person, and people buy from other people! Clients don’t want a human fact machine with no soul, they want to buy from a person they like. Yes, everyone suffers from imposter syndrome anxiety at some point, no it’s not a big deal. Don’t let it get you down.
Talking out loud to yourself is an effective imposter syndrome treatment. Remind yourself 1,000 times a day if you have to.
Here are a few positive money mindset affirmations that I use:
- I am a successful small business owner.
- a valuable real estate investment coach.
- I deserve the money I make.
- I work hard and do my best for my family and clients.
- And I am the best person to help people with their problems ‒ that’s why they come to me!
These are just my positive affirmations. Try some of your own and see what works.
